When your pet dies: Why grieving should be taken more seriously

Wallingford, UK - For many, pets are more than just a hobby. They are companions, they are friends, they are part of the family. Losing our animals can, of course, be very painful and even lead to trauma. Yet, not everyone understands the weight, and even some therapists can downplay the loss. But hopefully, all that is about to change.

For many, pets become a loyal friend and part of the family.
For many, pets become a loyal friend and part of the family.  © 123RF/jickaro

A recently published study, with input from specialists at the Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement, has offered new ways to think about the significant loss of an animal, and seeks to ensure there is a shift about how mourning is addressed.

"When relationships are not valued by society, individuals are more likely to experience disenfranchised grief after a loss that cannot be resolved and may become complicated grief," said Colleen Rolland, pet loss grief specialist and president of the association.

Researchers of the new review have provided recommendations to help therapists better understand certain issues when working with those who are coping with the loss of a beloved pet.

Abandoned puppy dog is brokenhearted in more way than one!
Dogs Abandoned puppy dog is brokenhearted in more way than one!

"It also discusses considerations for counseling that can be utilized to foster a supportive and non-judgmental space where clients’ expressions of grief are validated," Rolland added.

A pet dying can be a traumatic experience

Having to say goodbye to your fur ball companion is usually not easy.
Having to say goodbye to your fur ball companion is usually not easy.  © 123RF/piksel

Dr. Michelle Crossley, assistant professor at Rhode Island College and another expert involved with the study, believes that pet deaths are still not taken seriously enough, which could have a negative impact on the mental health of those affected.

The Covid-19 pandemic has only exacerbated the pain of losing this human-animal attachment.

"When an individual loses a pet, it can be a traumatic experience," Crossley explained.

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Dogs Golden retriever puppies have the cutest playtime on swing set

"Giving a voice to individuals grieving a disenfranchised loss is one way in which counselors can help clients through pet loss," she added.

She noted that coping tools like "in person or web-based chatrooms" and safe spaces to talk are crucial for those dealing with the loss of an animal.

For more on preparing for and grieving the loss of your four-legged friend, TAG24's guide can help.

If you or someone you know need help or is struggling with a mental health crisis or emotional distress, please call the Mental Health Hotline at 1-866-903-3787 for free and confidential support. You can also text "HOME" to 741741anytime for the Crisis Text Line and access to live, trained crisis counselors.

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