Three dads and a baby: a San Diego throuple's battles to build a family

San Diego, California - A throuple in California have made history by becoming the first trio to legally be recognized as parents.

This family is different, but happy!
This family is different, but happy!  © Instagram/Screenshot/three_dads_and_a_baby

Ian Jenkins, Alan Mayfield, and Jeremy Allen Hodges have been a committed throuple – a polyamorous relationship with three equal partners – since 2012.

But when the San Diego trio embarked on parenthood, they faced an unexpected legal battle that turned their worlds upside down.

They wanted to be named as three equal legal guardians on their children's birth certificate.

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A California judge said it was an unprecedented situation, but after expensive legal fees and lots of contracts, she ruled in their favor.

"I didn't want a court battle," Jenkins told People magazine. "I just wanted to be a dad."

The three got their dream and were all present in the delivery room at the birth of their daughter Piper, which was made possible by their two friends who served as an egg donor and a surrogate.

They were blessed again two years later with a healthy baby boy. Parker was born by the same egg donor as their daughter – making their kids half siblings. (Mayfield and Jenkins were their sperm donors, respectively.)

Jenkins has now released a new book about their experience – Three Dads and A Baby: Adventures in Modern Parenting.

Though the three cannot legally marry, Jenkins claimed they are just like any other blended family who have step-parents involved with raising their kids – which he himself is a product of.

"We have two beautiful kids. I have two more partners than I thought I might. For me, it's kind of like winning the lottery," he said.

The trio educates about polyamory

The men seek to educate society about polyamory and their normalized life on their Instagram and often use the hashtag #RainbowFamily.

Their children are already aware of their unusual birth stories and have regular contact with their surrogates and biological mother.

They say their kids aren't confused by their unique household and that their busy home – complete with two dogs – is filled with love.

The parents were worried that their kids might be subjected to bullying in school but said that so far, their community had been extremely supportive and for the most part, curious.

"The other parents and kids are like, 'Cool! Tell us that story,'" Jenkins said.

Jenkins can now refer them to his book, which was released on March 9.

Cover photo: Instagram/Screenshot/three_dads_and_a_baby

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